Namaste. I bow to the divine in you.
It’s all we need, really, to make a connection. The ability to identify ourselves in one another. To recognize the beauty and love in someone, to acknowledge that the divine residing in you, resides in them as well.
Connection can also mean seeing their fear and pain.
To make a real connection means we’re vulnerable at times. It means saying, “I hear you. I see you. Sometimes I feel that way too.”
A young girl is skipping meals in an effort to lose yet more weight. She feels invisible and in excruciating irony is trying to become smaller in order to be seen. A girl at the locker across the hall whom she’s never paid attention to, over eats to disappear.
Surprisingly little separates us, yet at times we use those few things to put up our walls and set out dividers.
There is a mother out there right now, one who would give her own life for her children, agonizing over what to do about the trouble her teenage son is in, the struggles her other son has with reading, and the health problems of her young daughter. Somewhere on the other side of the world, there is another mother doing the exact same thing. They are told they’re supposed to hate one another because they worship differently, but the bond of motherhood they share unites them in countless ways.
“If you shift your focus from yourself to others, extend your concern to others, and cultivate the thought of caring for the well-being of others, then this will have the immediate effect of opening up your life and helping you to reach out.” – Dalai Lama XIV
Throughout the years, we will accomplish an endless number of tasks. We will climb ladders and achieve goals. We will celebrate events and mark milestones.
The level to which we make connections with others is infinitely more important than we realize. It’s a smile, a hug, an “I get that, me too” or “I’m sorry you’re going through this”. It’s seeing your own faults and failures in those of others, and instead of judgement, extending forgiveness and patience.
This post is part of #1000Speak for Compassion, the topic this month being connection. For more amazing posts, use the hashtag #1000speak across social media.